“Train up a child in the way he should go…” – Proverbs 22:6 (ESV)
I recently attended my son’s football match and found myself watching more than just the game. I observed the children; some were selfish, and others shared. Some threw tantrums, while others encouraged their teammates. A few only wanted to score, while others knew where they should go, running back to defend and protecting the team from loss.
It struck me: the way we parent shows up on the pitch!
Parenting isn’t just about providing or protecting – it’s about shaping character. The Bible says, “Like arrows in the hands of a warrior are children born in one’s youth” (Psalm 127:4 – NIV). Arrows must be sharpened, aimed, and released with purpose. Likewise, our children must be guided intentionally so they can be launched into the world to make a godly impact.
Zelophehad’s daughters (Numbers 27:1-11) were bold and articulate. Though their father had passed, he had clearly raised them to be independent thinkers who knew their rights and trusted God’s justice. Joseph, sold into slavery and wrongfully imprisoned, rose to lead in Egypt (Genesis 37-50). His resilience was forged not in comfort but in adversity – and through a deep trust in God.
In contrast, today’s parenting often swings between overprotection and performance pressure. But Scripture reminds us: “Train up a child in the way he should go…”.
The Hebrew word for ‘train’ (חנך, chanak) means to dedicate or initiate. It implies more than casual instruction – it suggests intentional, formative guidance. As one dedicates a house or temple, parents are to dedicate their children to a godly path from the beginning.
The phrase “In the way he should go” can be interpreted in two complementary ways:
- Moral and spiritual direction: Teaching children God’s commandments, values, and truth (Deuteronomy 6:6-7).
- Individual purpose and gifting: Recognising each child’s unique personality, calling, and strengths, and guiding them accordingly (Ephesians 2:10).
These verses encourage parents to discern both the spiritual and personal path God has designed for their child. May we dedicate and initiate God’s purpose in our children in every intercession, affirmation, instruction, and celebration.
Read: Proverbs 19:21; Isaiah 54:13
Bible Reading Guide: Psalm 94:12-23; 1 Corinthians 7:1-16; Ecclesiastes 1; Ecclesiastes 2; Ecclesiastes 3