―As they speak on their first two years of marriage
Drs. Robert and Kezia Lee will be first-time attendees to the upcoming Marriage Retreat hosted by First Assembly of God Wortmanville. This event is slated for November 26 and 27, 2021, under the theme Made for Each Other. The couple will be one of forty (40) in-person couples expected to participate in this grand hybrid event.
In December 2019, Robert and Kezia tied the knot, becoming the young Mr. and Mrs. Lee of the FAOGW fellowship. They are about to celebrate their second year of marriage, and shared their experience as husband and wife thus far.
They started by telling us what their expectations were and what some of the realities they faced were. It was made known that a lot of adjustments had to be made during the earliest stages of their marriage before they built the happy marriage they envisioned.
This would include embracing the new idea of living with an individual who can still be considered a stranger. In this case, it would mean sharing space, thinking about the well-being of the other, putting away selfish thoughts, and generally catering to the needs of the spouse.
When asked, Mrs. Lee spoke on behalf of her husband, indicating the reality they faced in getting basic things done like packing dishes and mopping the bathroom floor. In addition, this young wife did not expect to be “quite so self-conscious around this person who one is supposed to be so free with,” she intimated.
“We didn’t expect to have to fight so hard for ‘us’ time. Our schedules rarely seemed to coincide to allow that and while some things did meet expectations, like sharing household duties, there were some surprises as well in the mix, like I discovered that he can cook,” she explained.
The Lees have also learnt that an essential aspect of their relationship is communication. “Although we have gotten better at it, we sometimes still need to remind each other and set aside time to talk things through,” the couple noted.
The most rewarding thing about being married to each other, they shared, is that they are both very supportive in all critical areas. Here they took the opportunity to advise those preparing for marriage and those just married to realise that their relationship is unique with a God-given purpose.
Kezia further noted, “throughout the petty squabbles and even the big fights, one thing remained constant and that’s the love, even seeing each other without the gloss and fanfare didn’t diminish it. In fact it has grown and evolved.”
Despite the Lee’s marriage still being relatively new, the couple acknowledged that there are a lot of excellent examples of godly marriages within the local church, which they can emulate. These are in the form of matured unions, which take the form of shared words of wisdom, encouragement and even offer of safe spaces to talk, if and when necessary.
With the Marriage Retreat all set to touch lives, the Lees look forward to a programme that can openly address marriage concerns, while relating to their own unique and individual situation. Most importantly, they seek after godly counsel and essential qualities that may need to be adopted for a successful marriage.
The Lee family has been blessed with a new addition, a beautiful baby girl. This addition to their young family has significantly enhanced and improved their work-life balance as Medical Doctors. They now have a deeper appreciation of responsibility, which includes putting family first, while they uphold leadership roles within their local assembly.
We wish the happy couple a fruitful and God-fearing married life with all the goodness it has to offer. May their influence reach out and speak to the lives of those within their sphere, testifying of God’s mercy and faithfulness towards those who honour the institution of marriage.
